Unlearning to Be Me: My Wellness Journey

While Michelle Obama’s book Becoming encouraged us to become, I’m over here unlearning to be me. And after 30+ years of being me and all the habits I’ve developed, I’m learning there’s a lot to un-become.

I can’t pinpoint the exact moment I knew I needed to unlearn a few habits as I don’t recall an ah-ha moment. All I know is that I simply grew tired of being tired and angry at the world. Having a victim mentality did not serve me or make people love me more. And I began to notice how I constantly talked negatively to myself and that the narratives I bought into didn’t feel like my truth. That’s when I started:

• Unlearning how I speak to myself
• Unlearning limiting beliefs
• Unlearning what society tells me is beauty, happiness, success, or failure
• Unlearning narratives and ish that I thought to be true

Recently I’ve been questioning everything and doing the work to un-become! Interestingly enough it’s also been in my astrology and numerology to rethink life right now. I’m normally someone who likes to use my mental power to come up with answers by Googling, joining a class, or reading. But sometimes you need to give the mind time to reset and allow your Source, God, intuition, emotions, ancestors, guides, etc lead the way.

Unlearning takes awareness. It requires you to observe your patterns and be honest with yourself. And then when the time is right, create a new pattern and practice it repeatedly. Of course, we can’t forget giving ourselves grace and forgiveness.

So if I seem quiet these days, I’m just over here unlearning.

Journal Prompts

• What are some things about myself that don’t feel in alignment with the person I want to become?
• Talk about something about you that scares you.
• Describe a time when you grew out of something that meant a lot to you at the time.